There are so many different love stories out there. Some people are still looking for a love story, and some are in the midst of theirs. I am excited to write about loving in a relationship. Whether you’re still single thinking about being in a relationship or are in a relationship, there are a few things that it takes to become ready. I want to share some great ways to tell if the person you are with is really someone you should be with.
When I was single, God taught me a lot. First of all, the best love story you will ever find is in the Bible. God displays the most beautiful picture of what true love looks like. His Son laid down his own life for our sins. Sadly, a lot of people don’t read this beautiful image that God has for us. I had to figure out the hard way that my fulfillment doesn’t come from having someone in my life. The only way I can feel true satisfaction & fulfillment is in Christ Jesus alone.
If I were to depend on a relationship to make me feel complete, then that’s when you have those unrealistic expectations, and that person is going to feel that pressure, and fail you. But once you find that you can depend on God for those needs it’s so much easier to focus on Christ and it will help you become a better helpmate to someone in the future. It will help you to be more patient, loving, respectful, selfless, honorable, kind, not boastful, and not arrogant. I think everyone should be content with being single before they get into a relationship, because that is the time in life where you can truly focus on yourself, and become the best person God wants you to be.
Side note-Being single isn’t bad! It doesn’t mean you’re undesirable, or not good enough for some one. God says you are fearfully and wonderfully made. It’s just a season in life, and maybe being single is what God has for you. Either way you need to let God know you’re okay with what He has for you.
The closer I got to the Lord the more I realized what kind of man I really do want in my life; a man who is chasing after the Lord, and someone who would respect and honor me as well. A man who treat me like a woman, someone who wants to bring joy in my life instead of tears, and a man who will lead and serve God with me. I learned that it’s okay to be picky with who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Don’t get me wrong, no one is perfect! But the question to ask is; are they striving to be more like Jesus?
So you’re in a relationship. That doesn’t mean you’re married to them. So don’t act like your married. Meaning you shouldn’t be physically involved. Why? Because God intended that to be for marriage only. It is so precious and wonderfully created for that. Once you give too much of yourself in a relationship and things go bad, you end up having less of yourself to give to the person who you were meant to be with. God tells us to guard our hearts above all else, because everything you do flows from it. (Proverbs 4:23) There should be guidelines to follow while in a relationship that would help you set you and your future spouse up for a great future.
Dating is a step closer to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Ask questions; go on dates, walks, just really getting to know this person. See how well you can handle situations together. Share your opinions on life, your beliefs, how you would want to raise children. And if there are things that make a “Red flag” go up, take a step back and re-evaluate the person. You should never compromise your relationship with God, your values, dreams, or goals for someone. If God is saying get out, but don’t because you’re afraid of being alone. You are simply not trusting God. You will be okay if you don’t have someone in your life because you will always have God on your side.
There are so many wonderful pictures in the bible of relationships. Jacob and Rachel is a great love story. When Jacob saw Rachel it was love at first sight. They had to wait patiently on God’s timing, because Rachel’s father said he had to work 7 years for her, and Jacob did just that! (Really, he waited 14 years!) It’s a great picture of hard work, patience, trust, respect, and loyalty. Enjoy the process of dating. It is a beautiful adventure. Trust God to take hold of the pen for your love story. You won’t be disappointed if you do.
I’ll be posting another blog soon with a list of 102 questions that Kody and I have asked while we have been dating. I hope they will help those just starting a new relationship, or even if you have been in one for a while. So keep an eye out for them! Dear God,
I pray for the person who is reading this post. Lord where ever they are at in life, I pray they will trust you with the pen to the story you have for them. I pray that if they are in a bad relationship trying to make it work, that they will do the right thing. You are so wonderful to us and want nothing more but for us to be happy. Bless those relationships who are putting you in the center. I pray that more people will come to seek you in all things. And all of God’s children said… AMEN!